Valentines Day

“To-morrow is Saint Valentine’s day,
All in the morning betime,
And I a maid at your window,
To be your Valentine.
Then up he rose, and donn’d his clothes,
And dupp’d the chamber-door;
Let in the maid, that out a maid
Never departed more. “
~ William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act IV, Scene 5

Ah Valentines day, the day that many couples languish over for the displays and symbols of affection provided to them by their significant other and anguished over by the single around the world. February 14th, a day which to me should be like every other day for the bulk of the world unless you happen to be of the denominations that pay tribute or respect to the martyrs that held the name Valentine/Valentinus; But instead is a day like many others twisted by our modern consumerist society.

There are other days that have fallen to the same fate; their original and somewhat noble intention to pay respect to those that have raised us (Mothers Day / Fathers Day) to remember and show appreciation to those we care about that have since changed to show your <significant person> your love with <x>. Corporations seem to drive a message that in order to show that we care about someone we have to spend a reasonable amount of money and on that day or risk coming across as a grinch or not caring, and the trouble is there seems to be many people out there that buy into it and expect it on that day.

My personal opinion is you shouldn’t need a particular day to surprise someone with a gift and to be honest it typically has a much greater impact when it is a surprise to them rather than a time they expect or at least think that they have a higher chance of receiving something from you. And you sure as hell don’t need a day to tell someone how you feel about them, or that they are important to you it should be something that you re-affirm as often as you like. But if you need that particular day, or if doing something nice for your significant other seems like a chore perhaps it is time to re-evaluate your relationship.

Be spontaneous, be romantic, or just pick up the phone to say “Hey you know what? I love you” Just do it when the mood strikes not when the day dictates that you *should*

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